Hi I'm sure glad you're here.
I know these ideas may be a little hard to understand, but if you look at the 12 steps of the program, it simplifies it substantially.
Step 1- We admitted we were powerless over alcohol and that our lives had become unmanagible.
That should be pretty easy to do at this point, all though for some it does take more than the wife eating and peeing on the floor while drunk.