Originally Posted by
salamand 
You're right, I really hadn't thought of that. I'm sorry for what you went through. Can't imagine 23 years of it.
Is there anyone who WOULD do it again even knowing what you know now?
20 years of it here, and two children.
If I could have a do-over on only ONE thing in my life, getting married would be it. When I think about how much further ahead I should/could be financially right now, at the age of almost 49, it makes me sick. That's something no one has brought up so far. Being married to an alcoholic is VERY expensive. So is divorcing one. Go ahead and have a relationship with him if you want, but giving him ownership of half your assets, present and future, is not a good idea IMHO.
Yeah, it will get worse. More so than you can even imagine right now.
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