Alcoholics lie. They manipulate. They say whatever they think you want to hear so you'll just STFU already. His words mean absolutely nothing. You can choose to believe that he'll quit drinking if it will make you happy. He won't. I can promise you that. None of us have any reason to lie to you. It doesn't affect our lives in any way if you marry an alcoholic. You came here asking for our advice and we've given it freely. You'll do whatever you want to do. If you want to be married badly enough, you'll marry someone who you already have reservations about. It's a guarantee though...things will get much worse.