He already told you he was sorry. I'm not sure what you expect beyond that.
I know for me, I hurt the people who loved me the most in the worst ways possible.
The words "I'm sorry" seemed so inadequate in light of the harm I had caused.
I've apologized many times, but truly the best amends I can make are a living amends; that is, I stay sober and in recovery, working hard to make myself a little better each day.
I also was married to an addict/alkie, and have a 33-year-old addicted daughter.
I have found Alanon to be a valuable resource for me in healing from the effects of their addictions on me.
I'd like to recommend the book "Codependent No More" by Melody Beattie too.
My parents have never sought any codependency recovery themselves, and that is painful for me.
I hope you consider starting recovery for yourself too!
