Thanks, I think you're right in that I should do more research on codependency and work on my own issues, instead of trying to fix his. We're going on a break with no contact at the minute for at least a week, and hopefully that will help us both see things a bit more clearly. It's so difficult though!! I can't help wondering what he's doing and hoping he's ok. But like many people on this forum have said to me, he needs to be ready to get better himself and no amount of pushing from me will really change things in the long run. He said he's going to get help, I'll just have to hope that he follows through with it. Do you think not contacting each other is a good thing to do? x