The saying that comes to mind is progress not perfection. I think sometimes we need to touch the stove again just to make sure it is still hot so we can refocus on ourselves. I touched the stove yesterday and while it was not blazing hot anymore it still burned me. I look at it as I needed more information so I could understand where things were. Really helped me to get a clearer picture of where he is at.
I agree with suki... he was rude. Never okay to leave you behind or make you feel uncomfortable. I wonder how he would feel if the shoe was on the other foot and you were walking around talking to other women? I think I know that answer.