Tendencies it's up to you if you want to keep your recovery to yourself or not. About the date you will always find something wrong with something so don't try to analyse too hard with people. The woman that you went out with does seem to have money issues and have a high stand of people when that comes along. I would not worry too much about her. You too would not last at all. A person that lied about going on a second date is someone I would not like to get involve with anyway. From what you got from her you didn't seem to like her one bit.
For me on the only hand I would date marry and get a divorce and take half of the money. LOL joking