Originally Posted by
Tendencies 
So what' the lesson of the story? I think that trying to be what others wanted me to be and not following my heart is what brought me to knees and alcohol.
Yes, and you did learn the lesson. You knew she wasn't the right woman for you and that you didn't even really like her. I have a feeling you wouldn't have lasted long in a relationship, had she decided to continue. Because you did learn the lesson. Being true to yourself is the best way to travel on the journey of recovery.