Amen.
I was this way for a long time. I wanted to be happy but I wasn't will to work for it. I wanted to continue to drink as well. Not until I was really desperate and disgusted with myself did I actually start doing the work. I had to get to that point.
It is sad and it's difficult to sit by and watch it. It's also difficult to know how to help someone who isn't willing to do the deal. It's tough.