To help or not?
Ok, I will try to make this quick. My rah is going to court next month for his dui. He hired a lawyer several months ago and paid $700 towards a $2500 fee. She told him he needed to be paid by the time they go to court. When he got the dui he lost his job but last month he started working for one of his friends. His friend has promised him work until he went to court and said there would be enough work to pay his lawyer off and he really needed the help. My h took it because he was having issues finding a job. Well his friends business fell on hard times and he cannot afford to pay my h or have him work anymore. So it is 2 weeks until his date and he does not have the money to pay the lawyer. So this is my question- we have seperate finances due to the problems that come with being married to an addict. I feel like he needs to do this on his own but I really worry about my children and if there dad ends up going to jail. I have the money that I could pay it for him but I don't feel like I should because I did not get the dui afterall. (this is not his first btw). He has been doing well in his recovery so idk. Does anyone have any idea what happens if you don't finish paying the lawyer? I assume she can drop him? If so I would think that he would have to get a public defender but I don't think he would quailify because I have the money? Should I just go ahead and put the money to save bunch of head ache or mind my own business? I really would like to mind my own business and let him sort this out, but wondering if I will have to end up paying for it anyways?