This is a very well thought out and articulate expression of the way you feel. It's hard to say just what to do in this situation other than the rather obvious one of trying several different meetings, and, as another post here suggests, perhaps a smaller one. Try to find a congenial person who is more sensitive and understanding. I know they're out there since I have found meetings where the atmosphere is definitely supportive and not threatening. If AA isn't working for you then perhaps some alternative program which offers group support would help. You can access the names of such groups by links on this SR website. It's definitely discouraged in the AA groups I have attended to take another persons "inventory", as it is called, namely criticize and try to tear down another person the way you describe. So I hope you have some luck finding a supportive friend. All the best to you. I was a binge drinker too so I've been there.
W.