Originally Posted by
dbn0 
I know it's not going to be easy but I'm fine with that. I told her the only way she'd get rid of me is by asking me to leave.
This isn't really my place to say, but while I didn't advocate leaving just yet, I'm not sure I would have told her that, either. Her past experience with having lost both her ex and her kids, coupled with her fear of losing you, might make for a potent wake-up call should the time come.
Good luck, but brace yourself. You know where to find me if you ever need to bring out the big guns. :-)