freeing, I like your tagline.
It's not our abilities that make us
who we are, it is our choices.
"Hoping" is not detachment nor is it accepting reality. That would be a great first place to begin - practicing acceptance and detachment. Hope is an emotion, acceptance and detachment are actions.
When I stopped hoping and just accepted what it is today...this is what I have and it is my choice to make the best of it for me (and my kids) or screw it all up by letting my emotions drive me. The more I practiced this, the easier it got, but it is an everyday thing.