I know what you are talking about. I have been married for 9 years and wonder where the person I married has gone. He loved me and my kids he even adopted my youngest. He was wonderful. I don't know where that person has went and I try to understand. I ask myself everyday how things could go so terrribly wrong and if the person I am with now was the true man I married. Now all we have is chaos in our life. One minute he can be loving and tell you how much you mean to him and the next he tells you he hates you. It's like living with two different people. I have not figuared out what triggered this and probably never will and I guess it really doesn't matter anyway.