I can relate, Serious. I don't go to meetings more than twice a week or so and I'm content with that. I don't particularly enjoy them but I also never feel worse after I leave. I too don't feel like I fit in (there's some meetings with very clear "groups", like high school or something!). I use them as a reminder of my disease and a place where I can sit and think about my recovery without distraction. What I find more helpful is the aftercare groups I attend regularly at the place I did outpatient rehab, my weekly or twice weekly therapy sessions and conversations several times a week with my sponsor.
From what I understand, sober coaches are becoming more and more popular with people in recovery and, if you can afford it, might be a great option. However, I definitely encourage you to give AA a chance. Go to different meetings, go at different times of the day if you can and try to get something out of each one. And get a sponsor, they help a lot!