My sponsor says it all the time, "You're right where you are supposed to be." YEAH, it ticks me off sometimes!
Look at it this way, you are still trying to control circumstances you can't control. That's the lesson you need to learn, probably. We can't control everything even if we are doing it for ourselves, rather than for someone else. We still cling to the illusion that if we do everything JUST RIGHT we won't have to suffer.
The deal is, even when we do everything "just right" stuff is still gonna happen--stuff we cannot possibly control. Whether we suffer really depends on our own attitudes. Life doesn't stop happening, and we are still gonna have to deal with it. We don't get a break from disasters, large or small, because we are living the way we should be. All we are promised are better ways to deal with them.
Hugs,