I read Melody Beattie's "Codependent No More" recently. In it, I was comforted to find a few passages: Here:
"Alcoholism and other compulsive disorders are truly family illnesses. The way the illness affects other family members is called codependency.
Once they have been affected--once 'it' sets in--codependnecy takes on a life of its own. It is similar to catching pneumonia or picking up a destructive habit. Once you've got it, you've got it.
If you want to get rid of it, *you* have to do something to make it go away. It doesn't matter whose fault it is. Your codependency becomes your problem; solving your problems become your responsibility."
Ok, so how I see this in your situation, is that you have several options before you:
You can read all over SR, including the very helpful stickies above, post here, find your nearest and most applicable-to-you Al-anon meeting, and start your work. If you work it, it does work.
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