Hang in there, LadyBug. I can't offer you any advice... just empathy. I'm not there yet, but I'm probably headed for the same nightmare. My AW simply refuses to deal with her drinking, so I feel it's just a matter of time before I have to bail out just to rescue what's left of my life.
The thought of dealing with the lawyers, selling the house, paying off the debts, etc. just makes me want to curl up in a ball.
It is encouraging to read about people who have survived it... that's one of the reasons I stop by here from time to time.
Good luck!