Welcome to the SR family tka!
Please make yourself at home by reading and posting as much as needed.
I agree with the above poster:
you didn't cause his alcoholism,
you can't control it, and
you won't be able to cure it
Some of our stories about living with and loving an alcoholic are posted in the permanent (sticky) posts at the top of the page. I am always finding inspiration and wisdom when I read those posts.
Here is one of my favorite:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...l-problem.html