I know what you mean and I agree that every day of sobriety counts. It's not just about the numbers. And we need to encourage everyone who relapses because it's so easy to feel like a total failure and have thoughts of "I'll never get sober." We should never forget the feelings we had on day 1 - the self-loathing, shame, and hopelessness.
Relapse is a serious matter - it can start the obsession all over again and make it harder to get back to sobriety. Tragic things can happen. It can't be dismissed as though nothing happened. It's a time to question our plan of recovery. But I agree that unless someone is in denial the last thing they need is a lecture. Experience is fine and even suggestions, but we need to temper our responses with compassion and encouragement.
Good post!
