Cyranoak:
I live in a small town of 2400 people, so finding an alanon group is difficult. The one I attended for 2 years was 40 miles away and didn't work for me. I have several lady friends who I met on the internet. I am heading to Alaska with one of them next week for a week of fly fishing. Two of these women have been quite independent and one I was very attracted to, but things did not work out because of philosophical differences. We are still friends.
I was quite needy for awhile after the divorce, but am now content to just be friends.
Life does hand us some strange cards at times and one thing is for sure: it is never boring!