I could have written this post! I think its also part of codependency...
Its great others have more stable backgrounds...
In these cases I try to remember my "spritual family" and all the people that have helped me.
One time not so long ago I was walking alone and got really sad.. then I imagined I was not walking alone.. I imagined the SR pals that get me... my sister... my cats... my best friends back in my city... the cab driver that saw me crying when I left XABF's house and told me no guy worth a cent would make me so sad... the men in AA that reassured me I was bound to worse things with XABF and that it was brave to leave... the fellows in group therapy that have told me they see improvements... my gym trainers..... the long list of therapists, gurus, healers that have shared wisdom and helped me move on......well, once you start, you'll feel less lonely, I ended up in tears of gratitude thinking how many people have touched my life in a positive direction. THAT is my family and I can't be in better company. I don't think my or your spiritual family would fit in one picture.
It would have to be a panoramic shot.
