Dina, I am so glad you have stuck with us
My wife and I are business partners as well... We go all the way back through college and high school... Together for 35 years!! Married 27...
My situation is different than your's. I would like to offer only that this is all real hard, for all of us. The spouses as much as those of us working our way out of addiction, alcoholism, dependence, whatever...
But the end result should be happiness!!!
Something is missing with you and your husband.... AA can be a big warm comfortable blanket and can be a place where avoidance happens... If one is not truly working a program of recovery but just going through the motions... Being recovered means that we don't blame others ... Sounds like he has some work to do.... Maybe you do to.
Hang in there!!! As I said before, prayers to you, both of you.