Judgmental. (Sigh.) I've certainly been called worse. Maybe I am being judgmental. I will say that the original post pushed some of my buttons. I am flabbergasted that a spouse would write and complain about something that 99% of the family members on the Family and Friends Forum beg, plead, wish, hope, and pray for.
Let's see: 30 year marriage vs. attending AA meetings. Nah. I think he should stop attending AA, pretend he's not an alcoholic, resume drinking, continue a spiral into end stage alcoholism, die as a either a direct or an indirect result of alcoholism, leaving his wife of 30 years a widow. It sounds like the supreme act of love and devotion to me.
Maybe the real problem here is choice of recovery programs. If he would just choose Rational Recovery instead of Alcoholics Anonymous then all would be well. Is that what you are suggesting Supercrew? If it is, why not just come right out and say it.
Susan