It's not that I really monitored my husbands drinking so much as I watched everyone. I don't drink (don't understand the appeal) and amongst our friends I am the person who watches over them. It's more a protector thing than anything else. By the way my husband has said he was only an alchoholic for 2 years. Before that he says he was fine and I think he was. We owned a business together and were pretty much together 24/7, so not much opportunity to get drunk working 60 hours a week. He did have some trouble adjusting after we sold our buisness (we ran it for 25 years) . He was used to being the boss.
I have been going to counseling with him, but at this point he blames me for all that is going wrong.