Oh, and if we're talking Step 3, it became a lot easier for me when I read it and saw that it said (my bolding)
Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood him.
For someone who's been in an alcoholic marriage as the codependent party, the idea of "handing over"
control over anything is friggin SCARY. I mean, that's what I just got out of. No way am I handing over the reins to anyone else!
But it says... turn our will and lives over
to the care of.
Not
the control of.
God cares. God doesn't control.
