This may be a harsh comparison, but if your husband told you every time he looked at little kids he was afraid he was going to molest them, surely you would be freaked out and want him to get help..... even though he may not be a raging alcoholic as you define in your mind, if he feels helpless with alcohol and fears it may ruin his life, shouldn't you be happy he is doing this? My husband doesn't believe I am an alcoholic either, because nothing really bad has ever happened. Maybe sometimes I drink too much, but doesn't everyone? That's his way of thinking anyways. But I feel like alcohol might do something bad to me some day and so I am confronting the issue. I have had many thoughts of moderating my drinking, partly so my husband will feel better, but after reading everyone's posts and seeing how most of us fail, I think I will just give it up. Is that so bad? I am not trying to be too harsh, but aren't there worse things than your husband wanting to be sober?