Welcome to SR. There a lot of good people here going through the exact same type of thing that you are. Read the stickies at the top of the page. There is some great information there. Also, consider going to a couple al-anon meetings.
As for your current problem one of the many things I have picked up here are the 3 c's.
You didn't cause it
You can't control it
You can't cure it
He will take whatever steps he wants to when he is ready. You can't help him with this problem, it is his.
Keep reading and you will start to learn about detachment and how you can fix you.
I'm sorry for your problems
but you have found the right place to help you get better.