I walked - and after my husband started AA! It dawned on me that nothing was changing because nothing was changing and I held the power to change things. For me.
That was my eye opener. It wasn't a huge epiphany, but a subtle change in my perspective.
You seem to be experiencing that shift, based on the tone of your posts these days...keep allowing yourself to experience it. If you are calm and centered, you'll notice when it is time to do the next right thing, whatever that may be.