"Little Lies"
Just a vent: My RAW has this maddening tendency to lie about what she calls "little things". She says she does this because it would start an argument if she were truthful. The problem is that she can never tell a story that will hold up over time or she forgets the story she told. Of course, she did this while she was using but now that she is out of rehab she has continued with the same pattern. Truth be told, the things she lies about now are almost inconsequential but because they are lies they continue to undermine our marriage. My feelings is that if I can't trust her to tell me the truth about "little things", how can I trust her with "big things"?
So tonight she pulled the same stunt again and I decided that it was time to set some boundaries. Tomorrow night was going to be out "date night" that we had tried to establish to work on our marriage. When her lie finally came out I told her that honesty was one of my values and that I would not go on "date night" with someone who continued to lie to me. I was very calm while discussing this and never raised my voice. We sat on the couch and discussed the matter and she tried to start the same old apology routine. I said that I was tired of "sorry" and that only actions and telling the truth would prove that she was remorseful.
I'm kinda ticked because after months of being home alone I was looking forward to a night on the town but I have to find some way to get through to her that lies hurt our marriage.