As you can see, even though we all know what's really right here, it's still dependent on the judges disposition towards alcoholic/drugs and parenting. That is the risk I would be gambling with and the result could be them seeing me as trying to manipulate the system and the payoff could be 2 nights non-sequential parenting for me. See how my son could be legally exposed to more time with my AW? See how I am worse off? See the control play and why I'm doing what I'm doing?
I understand this completely!!!! I too worry that my saying I am concerned about him having unsupervised custody will be viewed as me being a vindictive spouse since, after all, I took him back after he assaulted me. That can't look good. I get all too well what you are saying above and it is a gamble and when young kids are involved the thought of having them split time and being alone with an A spouse is far more disturbing to me than staying with an A simply to ensure that the kids aren't ever alone with him....
One step at a time I guess, right?