(((DustyGirl))) - as an RA who spent time in jail, it did give me enough insight to quit..for a while, mostly because I was on probation and scared of going to prison. However, I didn't work a recovery program, change what is in me that thinks "ooh, don't like this, get numb" feelings. It took another bad relapse to get to that point.
Her consequences will eventually catch up with her, and she'll either take it as a wake up call, or not. My XABF#3 "got away" with a lot of stuff, too, until he didn't.
Keep focusing on you. As a recovering codie, I too, had to realize they (3 XABF's) didn't do anything I didn't allow. The saying "you get what you tolerate" comes to mind. Though it didn't feel good, at first, it eventually allowed me to let go of the anger, hurt, and disappointment.
Hugs and prayers,
Amy