tough situation, longwayhome. I am in a similar situation - AH has no job, he is very depressed and nowhere to go so he is refusing to leave since he came back 2 weeks ago. I am in the process of filing for divorce as well (meeting with lawyer tomorrow for going over the final papers). All I can say is there is never a good time to file for divorce - there is always some crises or another going on with As. File whenever you are ready, his HP will take care of him. Your (and my) responsibility lies with our kids and us, not him - an adult.