What is really sad is the reality of the disease. I know my AH really does want to quit and really does want life and his marriage to be better, but to really give into the recovery process is very scary to him I imagine. He wanted to know how to build back trust and pointed out he needed to be 100% transparent. After he took out $100 at the ATM this week I asked him what he needed it for. He stated he had no clue what he spent it on. He then proceeded to get all huffy about how he is not going to be micro managed. I pointed out that he needs to determine what he is more concerned with, building back trust or not being micro managed? Only reason to be uncomfortable with being 100% transparent is because he thinks he might slip and wants the ability to do it and possibly not get caught.