Honestly, that is one of the (many) reasons that I have decided I just can't be in this marriage anymore. I'm not an overly sexual person... but sex once every 2-3 months!?!? Not enough for me. And again, it's not about the actual physical act, it's the intimacy, the bond and connection with my spouse.
So, for me, it all goes back to... what do I want MY life to look like... and then looking at what I have, right here, right now... do they match? If not, what are the things that are different, can I change them or not... and if not, can I live with what I have?
I couldn't live this way for the rest of my life. And my AH, well, he said, "That's just life Shannon. You get married and you stop having sex." Bull$hit... my parents are in their mid-60s and are still having sex (gross to think about, but hey, kudos to them!).