Wow- what a horrid excuse of a father in his current state (sorry for being obnoxious but when it comes to being awful to one's kids my compassion meter is in the negatives).
How's your D? Was she disturbed by his antics? Embarassed? Poor kid...
I'm so sorry... it sounds to me that you handled the whole situation as well as you possibly could have and it's awful that you had to go through the fiasco you did.
Glad that the recital was adorable! My D5 had a dance recital about a month ago and it was, as you say, just about the cutest thing ever...
Your D is lucky to have such a wonderful mom like you!