Ugh, I am the same. I feel so much resentment. He's with this dumb pothead ex whom he'd been messing around with when I met him. They have this stupid weird codependent relationship that basically goes like this: he hooks up with her regularly until he finds someone else. Then he kind of dumps her but still keeps her around as a backup.
If things go wrong with his gf, he goes straight to her. She's a doormat with low self esteem and parties with him. She's probably an alcoholic as well as a pothead.
then he eventually decides she is lame and dumps her for someone else. RINSE REPEAT
This has been going on for 7 years. I WISH he had just ignored me when we met back in 2007. I wish he had just STAYED WITH HER and left me out of their dumb codependent alcoholic reindeer games.
I want to tell him that so badly but there's no point-it's just venting mad anger and frustration.
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ONEinaMILLION 
Erin, I understand what you're going through. I left my AH eight months ago and sometimes when I'm alone I think about all the things he put me through, and sometimes I feel so much resentment, so much pain inside. Ironically, I still talk to him and can't seem to let go, and I do look forward to the time when I will look back and everything will seem so far from my reality. But I guess it takes time and work to get to that point. The good thing is that those feelings help remind us why we left and why we must stay away.
Hope everything goes well for you. I also joined sober recovery recently and I have to say I'm really happy to have found this site. It is not easy to talk about this things with anyone, so being in touch with people who have gone through the same things is really comforting! :o)