Erin, I understand what you're going through. I left my AH eight months ago and sometimes when I'm alone I think about all the things he put me through, and sometimes I feel so much resentment, so much pain inside. Ironically, I still talk to him and can't seem to let go, and I do look forward to the time when I will look back and everything will seem so far from my reality. But I guess it takes time and work to get to that point. The good thing is that those feelings help remind us why we left and why we must stay away.
Hope everything goes well for you. I also joined sober recovery recently and I have to say I'm really happy to have found this site. It is not easy to talk about this things with anyone, so being in touch with people who have gone through the same things is really comforting! :o)