welcome icurn-
glad you found us. if you've been reading for a month, you'll know that there is absolutely nothing you can do to get your AH to stop drinking. he'll stop if/when he hits his bottom.
that said, here, we all try to put the focus back on OUR lives, face our issues, reach for our goals.
it sounds like you've reached your bottom. consider gettting some support at alanon and also, personal counseling.
mine started off punching walls. then he started throwing things like full cups of coffee. then he started blocking exits. then he attacked me. i moved out. six months after, when i was making new friends and beginning my independent life, he showed up at a party, drunk, and threw me down a stairwell and broke my shoulder.
leaving is a dangerous time. i never thought he'd do what he did, but it happened to me. be safe.
naive