Originally Posted by
sandrawg 
Good instincts-paying someone to attend AA is not only wacky but codependent.
Yes, I was struggling with an issue due to my ah's legal fees (from his recent dui). He has been unsuccessful in finding steady work and has been working part time. I had told the counselor I was really struggling on his lawyer fees. If does not pay them off by July he will go to jail. I have the money and could help him easily but he got himself into this mess and I feel like he should get himself out of it. But I really struggle with the issue if he goes to jail how it would affect the kids. So I asked him guidance on if I should pay them or not and he came up with the wacky idea that I should pay him to attend AA meetings. I have not went back since.