I'm sharing some of the "I quit" 's from barb dwyer:
I quit acting on what others tell me is best for me.
I quit listening to false compliments.
I quit blaming anyone other than me for anything. then or now.
I quit dressing in a way that I think will make others like me.
I quit trying to figure out what other want to hear.
I quit telling others to make changes I haven't made myself.
I quit being too busy to lend a hand up to anyone in recovery.
I'm sharing some of the "I quit" 's from naive: (you don't sound naive to me
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i quit rearranging my day around someone else's needs/demands.
i quit having sex because he is randy (it's been over 8 years)
i quit feeding him, cleaning up after him, making sure he gets to work.
i quit counting drinks and counting money spent on drinks.
And some of my own too:
I quit looking for wine bottles in the car and the apartment
I quit getting angry with my AH for drinking
I quit giving in to his statis "sleeping on the couch" energy, got up and got my life moving again (and it's been awesome!!)
I quit judging him for drinking
I quit not having a Plan B, which helped me with the next one:
I quit being scared of what might happen
I quit living for tomorrow
I quit quitting on myself