(((((((((((21CJ))))))))))))) <---Those are hugs..... Welcome to SR!!
The addict in my life is my exhusband. I spent YEARS worrying about him, trying to convince him he had a problem and that he needed to do something about it. I forced him into rehab a couple of times. Nothing...I mean NOTHING...I did or said made one ounce of difference. He did what he wanted to do.
There is nothing you can do or say to make your bf want to change.
You aren't that powerful. No amount of love can do it. The only person you can control is YOU. Going to your parents was a great idea. Take some time to think about what you really want.
Glad you're here. This place helped me more than I can say.
Mary