Silly me, I thought he could just "quit drinking" and everything would go back to the way I wanted it to be.
You know...
It took me 4 years in Al-Anon to work through my own recovery enough to even have the ability to decide what I wanted to do (leave my alcoholic marriage).
Then after I left my alcoholic marriage and the dust started to settle, I realized that it wasn't that easy. That I might have left my alcoholic husband but I hadn't left my coping mechanisms and sick behaviors.
So whether you stay or leave, the journey of recovery is not something you schedule during a 15-minute coffee break. It'll be part of your life for a while regardless of what you choose to do about staying or going.
Edit to add that if that sounds negative, it's not. You can work on your own recovery even while being married to an actively drinking alcoholic. So whatever your choice is for right now, you can choose to take care of yourself. That was the point I was trying to make.