Welcome to SR.
Putting some space and time between us and our addicts is often a good way to get a clearer perspective of what we want for our lives.
It's no longer about arguing with them or trying to convince them that they have a problem, it's about acknowledging that our own lives need some help and deciding what is best for us, our children and our futures.
That was what helped me begin to find my balance again...taking the focus off my son (the addict in my life) and putting it back on me and my own issues.
You've come to a good place here where people understand because we've been where you are.
Glad you joined us.
Hugs