I was trying to explain it to my daughter.
I think for my wife once she gets that idea that she is going to drink, absolutely all reason and rationale goes out the window.
There are no thoughts of consequences or impacts. The mind is set on it.
My wife knows she is gradually losing her family, we have been moved out two months. She knows this, and, when not drinking is committed to kick-starting her recovery (a work in progress). She is deparate for our return; we would love to return if she can start a path to sobriety!
But if and when, her little brain gets that notion to drink, it will happen, and nothing we can do will impact it.
It truly is baffling, bewildering. Plainly insanity!
Take care...