Hi Jeep.....your story is similar to my own cause I was
the wife and mom that went into rehab after a family
intervention was set up and spent 28 days there.
My husband and his family took on my roles to take care
of the household and our 2 kids who were 4 and 7 at that
time until I came home.
It was my husband who picked me up from rehab where
I was the one apprehensive because I was still harboring
hatred, resentments towards my husband and family for
what they did to me.
However, in time i learned what they did for me I surely
couldnt and wouldnt do for myself and that was to get help
to stop drinking that I so desperately needed at that time
in my life.
We were 8 yrs into our marriage when i got sober and
remain so for 20 yrs and when our 25 yr marriage ended
sad to say.
I feel like my family thought that just because I didnt drink
anymore that I would be cured. They just never understood
that it is more than that. For an alcoholic I went thru changes
in my behavior as well as mind, body and soul.
Unless my husband was an alcoholic, which he wasnt, then
he had no clue as to what an alcoholic really is. He did attend
Alanon for a few sessions to only pick up the word dettachment
and felt like that was enough to understand my changes.
Sure enough he didnt understand me nor my alcoholism and
recovery which was very important to me. I had to stay sober
for me and under all sort of family situations. and it wasnt easy,
yet my solid recovery program kept me grounded to cope and
help raise 2 awesome talented grounded loving caring adults as
they are today. No addictions. Thank God.
Today some 20 yrs later i am remarried happy joyous and free
still in recovery and open and honest which is extremely important
in a marriage or rerlationship.