Boy-that is so true! sometimes it seemed like my exabf had brain damage-the way he behaved was so puzzling and illogical. I still puzzle over some of the things he said and did, and we've been apart 3 months now.
Originally Posted by
MeredithD1 
A's often don't make sense.
You said, "If me and his kids weren't enough reason to follow through, I don't know what would make him." You didn't cause it and neither did they; you can't cure it, and neither can they. You are thinking like a logical human there, but alcoholism is a disease that causes illogical behavior. Nothing can make him follow through on sobriety and owning up to his responsibilities to others - except for him.
Gentle hugs your way. I know times are hard now, but you will see better days. I know people around you who are not in Al-Anon can be critical of your choice to try and work things out. You won't get that criticism here in Al-Anon. You'll get encouragement to find serenity in your life! Whether the A is in your life, or not.