whew -
take a deep breathe honey & welcome to the SR family!!
First let me say I hate so much that you and your family have been so affected by the disease of alcoholism
It is difficult when our loved ones won't acknowledge they have a problem and also when other family members refuse to see the problem also.
Hopefully you & your BF can continue to seek help for yourselves, reading here and maybe thru counseling, Al-Anon and other sources to set boundaries, limit contact, and detach with love ~ to help both of you be able to live your lives with out her disease affecting your happiness.
It's not easy but it can be done.
Hope you keep coming back - there is a lot of help here and lots of great suggestions.
PINK HUGS (hope, unity, gratitude & serenity)
Rita