They say to addicts in recovery to not make any big life decisions for (i am not sure how long...6 months? A year?)
In any case, I had my RAH come home to live with us, and within 4 months it was unbearable. He is physically sober, but his behavior too erratic to cope with and stay healthy.
He now lives alone, and is still working on EVERYTHING. As he put it this weekend,
" I am brand new. I feel like I just got here. I have to relearn things. Its like I am a newborn."
Hes not kidding. HE has to ask questions about what to do in simple situations. That is work for a sponsor. He doesnt have one.
I would really give this deep consideration, because you dont want to find your self buying a house with what is essentially a teenager.
And relapse is slippery and a wide spectrum. He could just do the same old stuff without the alcohol. This is too new...go with the less permanent dynamic, and keep your eyes open to what really changes.
you can do this WHILE being supportive and loving.
Just have your boundaries clear, and not up for debate.