tinabanina- you aren't turning the post at all-- and please don't think too highly of how i handled things-- i am feeling like i'm back at square one right now. i thought that when i started making changes and taking hard steps to do things differently the feelings would not still be crummy and i'm a little caught off guard by how much it hurts still...
i completely agree that the only thing sadder than seeing your own relationship end is seeing how your partner ruins his r/ships with everyone else-- including his kids...
ndbt-like you i don't like to see anyone suffer-- whether they deserve it or not... i guess taken to an extreme that's become my own addiction, but somewhere in the middle is okay and i think that's always going to be a part of me... some of us are just born "bleeding heart liberals" (as AH has told me many a time i am!)